Love, Love, Love: "Kill Them with Kindness"

Why do we teach our children that if someone hits them to hit back? I am guilty of this too. Only recently did I realize it was the wrong approach. Today I told my daughter that if anyone ever hits her, perhaps she could hug them back. As usual, she thinks I am nuts. It's likely true (that I am a nut).

But imagine if every time someone was a jerk to us, we responded in love? I had a doctor appointment one day, and it was my first visit to a new office. I walked in and greeted the receptionist, who was less than friendly. My initial reaction was to leave the office, thinking if these people wanted my business they would be more friendly. Then I thought perhaps this woman is having a bad day, or experiencing personal problems (aren't we all)? Instead of being snotty back, I was extra nice. This approach softened her immediately and every visit since has been very pleasant.We never know what someone is experiencing inside, and maybe a little love is all they need in that moment.

Another example: My boss told me that when he starts to get annoyed during road trips, his wife responds by making him laugh. If they are lost, he'll say "we have no idea where we are!" She'll say "of course we do, we are right here!" Her sense of humor immediately calms him. What could have been a very tense situation or argument turns into laughter.They do say laughter is the best medicine!

I think this is an important message for today's children (and adults too) in a society where we are normally hell-bent on revenge when someone treats us badly. If we can rise above our ego, we can create a more loving environment. Hate only breeds more hate. Love breeds love. Let's choose to love :)